Are you Watering a Dead Flower?
So in honor of my 23rd birthday (which is TODAY), I found it appropriate to write about growth. With every birthday, we become another year older. However, maturity is a choice we must consciously decide to take on. We must decide to learn from every scratch, bruise, and scar we have attained and to continue to develop into our purpose. One of my friends posed a question that has really been sticking with me lately, “would you continue watering a dead flower?”
I am sure your immediate answer is something along the lines of, “Heaven’s No!” But, this simple question really made me think. Why do we continually pour ourselves into people, things, and situations that are obviously no longer growing, nor serve a function? Why do we empty ourselves and resources into something that is merely draining us? That same energy you are putting towards watering that dead flower can instead be used towards the development of something GREATER!! Something that is beyond anything that we could ask, think, or imagine. A new job, a new relationship, a BETTER you!
I noticed more personal growth when I stopped focusing so much on pleasing people and watering dead situations. Can I be real with you all for a moment? I actually used to struggle with insecurity, always wondering what people thought of me and even trying to go out of my way to make them happy, even when it was making me feel both unhappy and unfulfilled. I wanted to be the girl everyone loved, when I should have been more focused on loving myself. It would bother me when I thought someone did not like me. The great news is that I have grown from that shell of a person I once was. Although, I still have a heart for giving and being kind. I no longer seek the approval of others to validate me. If you like me, that is absolutely wonderful. & If you do not, then that is also splendid. I was not created to be liked by all nor to please others. I seek to please my heavenly father and to seek him when I fall short of his glory.
I stopped striving to be seen as a perfect person and to instead just approach every day with the mindset to be a better me than I was the day before. I say this all to say, that you can too. I noticed more of a change when I started truly pouring myself onto the Lord and asking him to fill me up. Less of me, more of you. I asked him to empty me of wordly desires and fill me with his purpose and selfless love. I know I have a long way to go, but I am so grateful that my yesterday is what makes tomorrow just that much sweeter!
Water yourself! You have permission to bloom and blossom. Stop being so focused on how much the flowers (or weeds) next to you are growing, and bloom baby. If you are reading this, then that means you woke up today. If you woke up today, then you have a purpose! A purpose that will remain unfulfilled if you keep watering that dead flower.
Keep Climbing,
